Tuesday, July 18, 2017
As an experienced New Jersey Divorce Lawyer, when someone asks about serving their spouse with divorce papers, it’s a real sensitive area for me. I had the big problem with people getting the proverbial sheriff in a uniform and pounding on the door saying, “You’re served, your divorce papers.” It’s a bad way to start things out. I don’t care how ugly it is. Myself, I don’t do that. I’ve done it before in certain cases, and there’s usually some reason. Generally speaking, you want to identify who the person is, you want to identify who the lawyer is, you want to call the lawyer up, and you want to say, “Will you accept service? No problem. I’ll send the paperwork over.”
You have to remember this is a very antagonistic world that I live in. It’s like pouring gasoline on that old fire at the back of your house. Those containers go and this fire blows up. The more you’re fighting, the more you do things like that, then the more you’re going to pay your lawyer. You may feel good about it, and it may make you feel good that you’ve had a sheriff’s officer serve the summons and complaint to your spouse, but really what’s happening is the lawyers are making more money. You don’t need to do that, and you’re setting up the case from day one to be this big battle when it’s going to be a battle anyway, and you might as well not try to make it any worse than it is. Don’t fan those flames. Try to douse it with water and put it out.
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